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  • Q : I often buy the shoes I like on impulse. I try them on for a few minutes and feel exhilarated. By the time I get back home, my feet are already hurting and I ask myself why I purchased them on the first place. It seems as though I’m only comfortable in flip-flops. See the Answer.
  • R : Choosing the right pair of shoes should be taken seriously. We have a tendency to give in to our emotions too often and too easily. Our imagination runs wild and we let ourselves be tempted without necessarily being certain or making sure that they’re adapted to the shape and form of our feet. You should make it a rule of thumb of trying out your new pair by walking in the shop with them for 5 to 10 minutes in order to detect if and where they hurt you. If after a few minutes, you still can feel pain spots on your feet or cannot keep your balance easily or start detecting tensions in your low back, the shoes are simply not made for you. Reason yourself, put them back in their box and go to another pair. You’ll know it’s the right pair when you’ll enjoy walking with them.
  • Q: I have to confess (I’m probably not the only one) that I have several pair of shoes that are just sitting on the shelves in one of my closets. I just love those sexy shoes but I can’t seem to have the guts to wear them. They have very high heels and I’m afraid that I would be sending too strong of a message. How should I wear them? Do you have any advice to give me? See the Answer.
  • R: Circumstances, environment and context will determine the type of shoes fitted for a situation, the reason why you wear them, and above all, how you wear them. However, there are a couple of simple rules to follow. For example, when wearing a dress or a skirt that is very short, it is preferable to avoid very high heels (more than 3 inches tall) that might project an image of you that does not correspond to what you are or who you are. Depending on the context and environment, the same high heels with a pair of jeans or a knee high skirt will give a completely different impression…just as the special types of platform boots found in specialized stores are usually more appropriate in your bedroom than in your office on a Monday morning. The posture as well as the gait and the dress ensemble that go with the shoes are decisive.
  • Q: What kind of exercise should I do to reinforce my wobbling ankles when I walk in high heels? See the Answer
  • R: While standing up in front of your kitchen counter, lean your body slightly forward with both hands on the counter, your feet laying flat on the ground 10 inches apart from each other. Push on the tip of your toes and lift your heels as high as you can. Then, let your heels touch the ground and repeat the exercise 20 times. You can do several sets of that exercise per day. When you’ll feel stronger, do the same exercise without any support whatsoever for your hands. You’ll be amazed to see how fast and how strong your ankles as well as the muscles around your feet will grow and provide you with a better and more stable balance and equilibrium. This exercise can also be done by using the back of a chair as a support to start with.